Gratitude vs. Entitlement

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There’s a lot of talk about how today’s couples, the millennial generation, has a
strong sense of entitlement. Rather than appreciating the opportunities, they often act as if it’s their right to have virtually unlimited choices. It makes sense since they’re the children of the baby boom, a time of unprecedented prosperity and hope in our country. It makes sense when you think that they can search on Google for free, interact on Facebook for free, and read/post reviews online for free.

What’s your first thought when you receive an inquiry?
The wedding industry is one that should be based upon gratitude. It costs very little to get married, just a license and someone to perform the ceremony. Yet, billions of dollars are spent on wedding celebrations each year, money they don’t have to spend if they just want to be married. Read More

GOAL is a 4-Letter Word

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We live in a society driven by goals, whether in sports, school or business; but IGoals had my perspective on goals changed a few years ago by my uncle. He told me not to use the word GOAL because goals, by their nature, can be self-limiting. If you’re trying to achieve the goal, you may deprive yourself of achieving more. In other words, if we just do our best, every time, we’ll achieve exactly what we’re capable of. On the surface that sounds plausible, but does it work in the real world?

When are goals good?
When you’re driving down the road you need to know the speed limit, as that’s the maximum allowable speed for that particular road. Did you know that many roads also have a minimum allowable speed? If you drive 20 mph on the interstate (when there’s no traffic slowing you down) you can get a ticket for driving too slow. Your car is capable of much more that any legal speed limit, but you have to hold it back to the target speed (or something close to it ;-).

Minimum goals, or targets, have their place as well. Besides not driving too slow to be a danger to others, it’s OK to have a minimum target when it comes to your sales and/or income. We all have to cover our expenses, put a roof over our heads, feed our families, etc. Many theme park rides have signs “you must be this tall to go on this ride”, and that’s for your safety. So, there are times when a minimum is good.

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What’s Your 1, 3 and 5 Year Plan?

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I recently attended a conference session about creating 1 year, 3 year and 5 year What's Your Plan - Ready Planning for Success Strategyplans for your business. The speaker, Liz Weber, posed some very interesting and introspective questions. I wanted to share with you some of my key takeaways and how I’m using them in my business, and with the wedding and event businesses with whom I consult.

My biggest takeaway was that my 1 year plan can be written in ink, but my 3 year, 5 year (and longer if you want) will be in pencil—or dry-erase marker if you prefer. While I have my 1 year plan written in ink, I keep the white-out handy (as when I do the NY Times crossword puzzle in ink).

As I look back at my current business (a little over 4 years now as an independent speaker, author, consultant and sales trainer) I can see that I’ve changed my business model and product/service mix a few times. There are certain services I used to offer that I no longer do. There are others that have been added to my product/service mix that I hadn’t imagined 4 years ago. Still others proved to be either not profitable, or not enjoyable for me; both good reasons to vote them off my island.

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Friday and Sunday Pricing – Should It Be Lower?

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I often see heated discussions on social media about whether you should charge Calculator How Much Can You Afford or Savethe same for Friday, Sunday, weekday, and off-season weddings and events, as you do for Saturday nights. There are passionate arguments on both sides. Some people contend that you’re doing the same work, therefore you should charge the same. That’s a sound platform. Others say that they’re only going to do a limited number of events per year, therefore they hold to their price, also a sound argument.

The other side speaks of not getting as many inquiries for Fridays, Sundays, or weekday events—so they offer a discount to encourage those to book. That too is a sound platform. There are successful businesses on both sides of this discussion.

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Four Reasons Businesses Fail—and How to Avoid Them

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This article was published in the July/August 2015 edition of Wedding Planner Magazine entitled “Four Reasons Business Fail–and How to Avoid Them”.   If you would like to use this on your site or blog, email Alan to receive the .pdf and Word versions, along with the attribution to include.


Four Reasons Businesses Fail—and How to Avoid Them, by Alan Berg, CSP

The things that make you great at planning weddings don’t necessarily make you great at business. That’s a harsh reality, but one you have to address if you want to have a successful wedding planning business. The skills and tools you need to be successful in business are available to you through the pages of this magazine, through the Association of Bridal Consultants, and at the myriad of conferences held locally and nationally.

Here are some of the top reasons businesses fail in the wedding industry:

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The High-End Wedding – Debunked

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For as long as I’ve been in and around the wedding industry, businesses have been chasing the “high-end” client. When I ask them what they mean by high-end, they usually say that it’s someone who’s spending a lot on their wedding. In theory that sounds right, but is it in practice?

What makes it high-end?
A high-end client sounds like an aspiration, but just because someone spends a lot, doesn’t automatically make it classier, or creative or (in plain words) better. Lots of couples spend lots of money on things that make others scratch their heads and go “Huh?” We wonder why the money went to those elements of the wedding, while there may have been elements that seem a little lacking—at least in contrast. Read More

What do you want when you’re the customer?

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What do you want when you’re the customer? What a simple benchmark, and one that we should all strive for when we’re serving customers. So why is it so hard for others to use such a simple benchmark?  I think it’s just a matter of paying attention. Too many people are just skating through their day with no thought other than getting to the end of their shift. There seems to be no sense of ownership. Years ago businesses were family-run and people understood the value of good customer service. The store, and the people who worked there, were a package deal. They greeted you when you came in, they thanked you when you left, and encouraged you to “come on back and see us”.

So what’s changed?
I think it’s a short term outlook. The feeling that this is only temporary, so why care. Whether temporary or not we should all care. My list of job stops is long and circuitous. I didn’t know it at the time, but each of those jobs provided valuable lessons in customer service.

Is Showing Up Enough?

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Open vs Closed Mind - Toggle Switch I attend a lot of networking events and conferences each year and I’m amazed at how unprepared some people are for the experience.  You never know who you’re going to meet, what you’re going to hear and what opportunities might present themselves.  Life is full of wonderful surprises; yet, there are people with no business cards, no elevator pitch and (in some cases) no interest in being there.  I started thinking about the difference between showing up and actually being present.
Showing up is the easy part
Of course not showing up is even easier, and there are always other things to take up your time; however, if you never show up you’re an outsider in your own industry. No matter how long you’ve been in business, there are always new people to meet, new things to learn and new ideas waiting to be discovered. Being present and being a participant are harder than just showing up but that’s where the magic happens. I’ve made some terrific connections that have led to
business and friendships by showing up at events, often unexpected events.

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DI Why? Why do they do it themselves?

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Do You Have the SkillsI’ve spoken over the years about the DIY (Do it Yourself) wedding couple. While many weddings have some element that was done by someone involved in the wedding (family and/or friends) there’s rarely a wedding that’s truly all DIY. Did her mom make the wedding dress? Did his/her aunt cook the food? Did his friend take the pictures or play the music? More likely they made the programs, possibly decorative items for the tables or church.

Why are they doing it themselves?
It might be their budget, or it just might be that they enjoy the creative process. I’m a DIY when it comes to home improvements and repairs. Rarely is it to save money, because many of my DIY projects wouldn’t get done if we had to hire a professional carpenter or handyman. They’re not emergency repairs, rather improvements or artistic expression.

So, when couples try to do things for their weddings…

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